I know even contemplating marriage counseling can make people really uncomfortable. After all, the inner workings of your marriage are deeply personal and private, and if things aren't going the way they should be, just thinking about talking to a complete stranger about your struggles feels exposing and even embarrassing.

 

I want to assure you that we can do this in a comfortable and productive way. Our conversations are completely confidential of course -- I run my own practice myself, so except in extraordinary, legally mandated circumstances no one will have any kind of access to a single detail of what we talk about. Also, realize that I have been conducting marital therapy for 23 years, so I have heard pretty much everything from my clients. Things that seem awkward or make you feel queasy are things I have discussed many times before. They are familiar to me.  

 

So we can talk about whatever we need to talk about. Communication is always at the forefront. And as the three of us discuss your concerns, we can deepen our understanding of the problem, find solutions or compromises, and develop action plans to establish and sustain new and better ways of doing things. Part of my work also is to deepen your respect for marriage and to help you and your spouse to see what a profound and rewarding project a lifelong partnership is meant to be, and can be. So let's not panic even if we are having a bad year, okay?

 

You will find me to be a personable and active therapist. I don't just sit and stare. I am inclined to keep control of marriage sessions, especially for couples that have trouble keeping their dialogue calm and productive.  I will give my opinions, when I have opinions. I will direct your behaviors or give homework as opportunities present themselves. I will care about you and your partner, and unless there are intractable or injuring factors, I will be rooting for the success of your marriage from beginning to end.

 

You can give me a call to discuss this. Only I will hear the voicemail you leave, and only I will return your call. I look forward to speaking with you.